Managing the home both during and after a divorce Blog by Cheryl Carter EveryHome Matters

Managing the home both during and after a divorce

Moving and divorce are both listed amongst the most stressful things we will experience in our lives, but it does not have to be! Holding on to feelings of hurt, anger, resentment, retribution is damaging for everyone around us, especially when children are involved.

There is an old Buddhist quote “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned!”

The sale of the matrimonial home, which is owned jointly, can be a very emotional time for everyone and can be made worse when your partner has severe depression and is in denial. The home becomes neglected and the thought of downsizing and living alone can be a scary thought, more so when you have been in a controlling relationship. Understandably due to debts and financial implications the sale of the home is the only option.

However, working in unison and where feasible, retaining the family matrimonial home until the children reach a certain age has so many benefits. It can relieve the stress of having to downsize and most importantly will give the children continuity and stability, during a very stressful time.

However, being a single parent juggling a hundred and one things at a time can mean that the home can often be the last thing on our minds or sometimes you just can’t find the enthusiasm or energy to face doing anything. Before you know it the rooms need de-cluttering, the dripping tap still drips, the place needs redecorating, the garden is overgrown and the list goes on…

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