Blog2021-07-15T19:32:43+01:00

Unconditional Love Is A Wonderful Thing

Unconditional Love Is A Wonderful Thing Parents will always worry over their children’s well-being and success, sometimes to the extent that it is all too easy for us to become obsessive or competitive. But when we get caught up in ensuring that our children obtain high-income jobs and high-level qualifications, we can fail to recognise and appreciate other positive qualities that are equally valuable and worth nurturing; qualities which are crucially learned from environmental factors such as family and not from a textbook. Dementia and decluttering assistance I have been assisting a client in the early stages of dementia with decluttering his home in advance of his move into a care home. His wife passed away four years ago and his daughter has been [...]

September 20th, 2021|Categories: Blog, Improving Your Wellbeing|

“Which” Top Reasons For Writing A Will

“Which” Top Reasons For Writing A Will When writing a will, you don't just decide how your estate is divided up! You also have a say as to WHO should look after your dependents, your pets, your digital assets, and the list goes on! Here is the Which guide to Top Reasons for Writing a Will.  If you need more help, please contact Cheryl Carter, Every Home Matters. We have solicitors we can put you in touch with or see our Support Directory. Make a will to name your children's guardian If your children are under 18, you can also appoint their legal guardians. If you don't, the decision could be left to the family courts, who may choose a person you wouldn't agree [...]

September 15th, 2021|Categories: Blog, Improving Your Wellbeing, Moving, Organising|

Declutter as neglect or hoarding problems pose a risk to health and safety.

Declutter as neglect or hoarding problems pose a risk to health and safety. In my personal and professional life, it has been my experience that many individuals who are living with cognitive impairment or have been institutionalised, find it difficult to cope with maintaining their home once they return to independent life. Conditions such as depression can be disabling. With many individuals struggling to look after themselves let alone their environment, mental health issues may arise. Adjusting to this new way of life can also seem all the more daunting when you have become accustomed to having it handled by someone else. It is typical for many of my clients to have been instructed by family, friends, landlords or housing associations to acquire assistance with [...]

September 5th, 2021|Categories: Blog, Organising|

Keeping the matrimonial home after divorce

Keeping the matrimonial home after divorce Divorce does not necessarily mean the disposal of the family matrimonial home and if financially feasible it can be agreed until the children reach a certain age. By doing so it can relieve the stress of having to downsize and most importantly will give the children maintain familiarity in the midst of a very stressful time. However being a single parent juggling a hundred and one things at a time can mean that the home can often be the last thing on our minds or sometimes you just can’t find the enthusiasm or energy to face doing anything. Before you know it the rooms need de-cluttering, the dripping tap still drips, the place needs redecorating, the garden is [...]

September 1st, 2021|Categories: Blog, Improving Your Wellbeing|

You owe yourself the love that you so freely give to other people

You owe yourself the love that you so freely give to other people Love can be so strong and positive when it’s a two-way thing. It can build bridges and be so uplifting, but what do we you do when the one you love is no longer there or they no longer love you? We naturally think that our loved ones will always love us unconditionally and never imagine what life would be like without them. So how do we cope when suddenly, either due to bereavement, divorce, separation or illness, those ties are suddenly severed? Having experienced first-hand the impact of dementia and mental health within my own family, I’ve seen how quickly personalities and behaviour can change, how empathy and love can [...]

August 29th, 2021|Categories: Blog, Improving Your Wellbeing|

The early stages of dementia and intermittent memory loss

The early stages of dementia and intermittent memory loss The early stages of dementia can bring with it intermittent memory loss, which may not be diagnosed at the time of carrying out a capacity test. Many people fear the diagnosis of dementia and when in denial find a way to play this. Signs to look out for The concern is when an individual who has been suffering a mental health illness over the years and is living alone starts displaying self-neglect and of their living environment. When this happens it is easy to think that this is part of their illness and dementia can go misdiagnosed. This was the case of one client I was asked to visit. His son had contacted me as my [...]

August 22nd, 2021|Categories: Blog, Organising|Tags: |

What happens when a loved one dies? Video from probate to trusted advisors

What happens when a loved one dies? The process leading to probate and trusted advisors This video is an overview of the process leading to trusted advisors. Are you unsure about the probate process? Have you recently been appointed to administer an estate? Or are you a Solicitor looking for independent trusted advisors to work with? This video explains the importance of using independent and qualified advisors to value the assets. Including the Property and the contents of the property.     Contact Us today or have a look at our Support Directory for advice.

August 10th, 2021|Categories: Blog, Moving|

No time for Mum & Dad

We were called in via an elderly clients’ solicitor to assist in collating some vital paperwork. Our clients are an elderly couple, Mr being 90 years old and his wife 85 years old. Mr has dementia and suffered PTSD since the war and Mrs who was having falls and losing her memory, was his sole carer. Their only child lived miles away and had a high flying job which demanded most of their time thus making it difficult to look after or facilitate care needs for their parent. Our initial free consultation flagged up many concerns and although it is all so easy to rush in to safe guarding the couple, one must look at the bigger picture and the impact of doing so [...]

August 9th, 2021|Categories: Blog, Organising|Tags: , |

Mother Nature Can Teach Us So Much

How mother nature can teach us so much. Life is constantly changing, and we need to be able to adapt to those situations as and when they arise. This is easier said than done and when we are in the thick of it, it can be hard to see that when life is stagnant, we need to look at ways to move forward. Like stagnant water, nothing will grow or change, but rot and decay! Loss of any kind can be hard to come to terms with and we look for answers around us questioning what we could have done differently or why this has happened. By doing so we are focusing our thoughts on the negative emotions which will only keep us trapped [...]

August 1st, 2021|Categories: Blog, Improving Your Wellbeing|Tags: , , |

Nothing Is Forever, even our worries

Nothing Is Forever, Even Our Worries I had the pleasure of being in the company of a truly inspirational 91-year-old gentleman, living in Northwood and looking to downsize his family home. He has the energy of someone in their 70’s and even looked it! It was a privilege to hear him talk about his experience of having to leave Germany, during the Second World War, at the age of 10, along with one of his sisters. His parents had escaped to Turkey and then eventually made their way to the USA. Unfortunately, however, they could only take one of their three children with them and had to make that painful decision. As a parent myself, I could not help but feel their anguish. He [...]

July 29th, 2021|Categories: Blog, Improving Your Wellbeing|Tags: , |

Sudden realisation and acceptance that we are losing our independence, mobility, and the ability to cope

Sudden realisation and acceptance that we are losing our independence, mobility, and the ability to cope The sudden realisation and acceptance that we are losing our independence, mobility, and the ability to cope can be hard to come to terms with, especially when we have lived a full life and been very active and independent. Asking for help can also be difficult when you have never relied on anyone but yourself.  So, the sudden realisation that the property is too much to maintain comes as a mighty shock, as too can the fact that we require care. De-cluttering a person’s home is always different for everyone, but the one recurring and challenging aspect of this work is how they will react to the change [...]

July 22nd, 2021|Categories: Blog, Moving, Organising|

Mental Capacity Test

Mental Capacity Test The Mental Capacity Act (MCA) is designed to protect and empower people who may lack the mental capacity to make their own decisions about their care and treatment. It applies to people aged 16 and over. It covers decisions about day-to-day things like what to wear or what to buy for the weekly shop, or serious life-changing decisions like whether to move into a care home or have major surgery. Examples of people who may lack capacity include those with: dementia a severe learning disability a brain injury a mental health illness a stroke unconsciousness caused by an anaesthetic or sudden accident But just because a person has one of these health conditions does not necessarily mean they lack the capacity [...]

July 22nd, 2021|Categories: Blog, Moving, Organising|

The Advantages of Selling “Homes Under the Hammer”

The Advantages of Selling “Homes Under the Hammer” Are you looking to sell a property? You have probably investigated all the traditional methods and have decided there is likely only one way - to go with an estate agent and hope for the best. With over thirty years' experience in real estate, witnessing many scenarios and a changing housing market, I believe that there is another way forward when it comes to selling your property. Selling a property at auction may not have occurred to you, but it can be a great way to make the sale you want. If you want to find out how this could work for you, Philip Arnold, from Arnold Auctioneers provides the following information. Philip has wealth of [...]

July 22nd, 2021|Categories: Blog, Moving|

Petition to allow communication with medical professionals about the health of our loved ones

Petition to allow communication with medical professionals about the health of our loved ones Reformation of patient confidentiality protocols is long overdue in particular regard to the health and wellbeing, mental illness, and loss of capacity of our loved ones, within the health and social care services. Unless a power of attorney is appointed, patient confidentiality protocols currently prevent family members from discussing their loved ones’ diagnoses, medication, and personal needs with their GPs when it is in the interest of the patient. These protocols need to be reformed. For example, in cases where a person's mental illness and/or loss of capacity may profoundly affect both them and their family members, and where those family members can assist in reaching a satisfactory outcome for [...]

July 22nd, 2021|Categories: Blog|

Why Don’t You? Remember that TV show?

"Why Don't You? Why Don't You Just Switch Off Your Television Set and Go and Do Something Less Boring Instead?" For those of you too young to remember this was a BBC children's television series which started back in the 70's! Quite apt when you think how much time we spend in front of a screen now!!! For me growing up in the 70's was a time of freedom, being individual, connecting within the community, being creative and using our imagination to stimulate the brain. This came easily as there was not the competition or pressure on children to perform and the expectation that they excel at absolutely everything. We were free to explore and find our own passions, so that we could be [...]

July 15th, 2021|Categories: Blog, Improving Your Wellbeing|

Financial Care Solutions

Financial Care Solutions Having known Cartiona Lumiste for several years on a professional level and as a fellow Trustee at Carers Support in Merton I value not only her professionalism but her integrity and honesty. It is, for this reason, I asked her to provide a blog… Who cares about care? It’s not easy going through the experience of finding the right care for a loved one. It is an emotional time that involves lots of decision-making and feelings of being overwhelmed, and a complicated system to navigate as you embark on the care journey. A common theme I find is that people are concerned about making decisions around the right type of care and the cost that comes with it, which is often [...]

July 14th, 2021|Categories: Blog, Organising|

Professional Advice and Support During Divorce

Professional Advice and Support During Divorce Divorce is often described as bereavement.  Accepting change can be difficult, coming to terms of the loss of a relationship, the home and sentimental possessions can soon fuel our emotions, resulting in aggression, bullying, and controlling behaviour. For the person on the receiving end of this hostility, it can be very intimidating and difficult to negotiate the smallest issues, let alone the division of the home and its contents. By preparing an independent inventory of all the possession at the beginning of the divorce and copying in both solicitors, the assets can be distributed.  Clinging on to possessions of no value out of spite and removing items from the matrimonial home without consent only adds more fuel to [...]

July 7th, 2021|Categories: Blog, Organising|

Benefits of Every Home Matters

Are you looking for extra support for a family member? Do you need support with independent living? Here are some of the many benefits of Every Home Matters and how we help our clients. ✅  Supporting clients through life-changing situations; illness, age, disabilities, bereavement, mental health issues ✅  Supporting clients in managing and keeping on top of general maintenance and cleanliness of the home, thus preventing squalor ✅  Improving the living environment and clients’ well-being ✅  Reducing the risk of fire from hoarding ✅  Combatting loneliness and isolation ✅  Improving clients’ confidence and self-esteem ✅  Optimising the value of the home ✅  Protecting clients’ valuable possessions by working with auction houses and insurance companies ✅  Preventing scams and exploitation by rogue traders ✅  Preventing [...]

July 7th, 2021|Categories: Blog, Moving, Organising|

A Chartered Surveyors Guide to RICS Probate Valuations

A Chartered Surveyors Guide to RICS Probate Valuations Dealing with the complexities of probate and inheritance tax can become less stressful if you find an auctioneer who specialises in valuations in this field. This article explores ‘What is an RICS Probate Valuation?’, and looks at the best source of help in evaluating property in someone’s estate. What are RICS Probate Valuations? This term refers to valuations carried out using the Royal Institution of Chartered Surveyors (RICS) Professional Standards. The RIC has created a set of mandatory guides for chartered surveyors to use to ensure property appraisals are always conducted in a fair and consistent manner. Another common term for property assessments provided under the RICS professional standards is ‘Red Book’ valuations. Why do you [...]

July 7th, 2021|Categories: Blog, Moving, Organising|

The Value of Independent Care Advice

The Value of Independent Care Advice Before making any decisions about eldercare options you will want to make sure that you are obtaining accurate and relevant information from a reliable and well-informed source. My 20 year's Nursing Experience I am a registered nurse who qualified from Guys Hospital in London in 1983 and who has gained varied experience in both private and public healthcare sectors. I have enjoyed all of the aspects of my nursing career but in particular, it has been my privilege and pleasure to provide independent care advice to older people and their families for over 20 years now. My registration with the Nursing and Midwifery Council together with my membership of the Care Adviser Network and affiliate membership of the [...]

July 7th, 2021|Categories: Blog, Organising|

How Learning to Love Yourself Brings Inner Strength

How Learning to Love Yourself Brings Inner Strength and Peace. Love can be so strong and positive when it’s a two-way thing. It can build bridges and be so uplifting, but what do you do when the one you love is no longer there or they no longer love you? We naturally think that our loved ones will always love us unconditionally and never imagine what life would be like without them. So how do we cope when suddenly, either due to bereavement, divorce, separation, or illness, those ties are suddenly severed? Having experienced first-hand the impact of dementia and mental health within my own family, I’ve seen how quickly personalities and behaviour can change, how empathy and love can fade away and be [...]

July 7th, 2021|Categories: Blog, Improving Your Wellbeing|Tags: , , , |

Would a stranger, who does not know your child be the best person to decide about their welfare?

Would a stranger, who does not know your child be the best person to decide about their welfare? Up to the age of 18, children have the protection of their parents, thereafter they are suddenly classed as an adult with sometimes complete strangers making decisions about their welfare and well-being. In most families, parents are the ones children trust and turn to for protection and reassurance. Knowing their child’s physiological, emotional and physical needs, past history and what triggers certain behaviour or symptoms, is paramount in any scenario, particularly when it is their mental health that is being questioned. Why should this then change as soon as a child reaches the age of 18? What happens if they have not appointed an appropriate adult [...]

July 5th, 2021|Categories: Blog, Improving Your Wellbeing|

The Importance of Appointing a Power of Attorney

Why make a Lasting Power of Attorney? Lasting Powers of Attorney (LPAs) are legal documents that allow you to appoint someone to manage financial affairs and other matters on your behalf during your lifetime. 1. Property and Financial Affairs: This allows one or more people (referred to as Attorneys) to act in relation to all ownership of assets and manage your financial affairs. This includes selling your house or managing bank accounts. 2. Health and Welfare: This allows the attorney to make decisions about day-to-day care and medical treatment. Your attorney or attorneys must always act in your best interest, so it is vital that you appoint people in whom you have complete confidence. Making an LPA avoids the need for complicated legal proceedings [...]

July 1st, 2021|Categories: Blog, Moving, Organising|Tags: , |

How we decluttered a man’s home living alone with dementia and what happened next. 

How we decluttered a man’s home living alone with dementia and what happened next. Parents will always worry over their children’s well-being and success, sometimes to the extent that it is all too easy for us to become obsessive or competitive. But when we get caught up in ensuring that our children obtain high-income jobs and high-level qualifications, we can fail to recognise and appreciate other positive qualities that are equally valuable and worth nurturing; qualities which are crucially learned from environmental factors such as family and not from a textbook. I have been assisting a client in the early stages of dementia with decluttering his home in advance of his move into a care home. His wife passed away four years ago and [...]

June 29th, 2021|Categories: Blog, Organising|

Find our strength in adversity. A poem for you.

Finding our strength in adversity. I wrote a poem to give me strength during my personal journey. I hope you enjoy it and it brings you strength too. "Like a tree I stand tall, my roots firmly grounded as I grow. Where naivety to the storms and diseases of life once stood, I accept whatever the conditions and go with the flow. Being put to the test the wind blows so strong, that sometimes I feel as though I am going to break. I surprise myself and remain flexible, bending and going with the flow. Slowly the storm calms and I still stand tall, albeit a bit shaken and battered. Time is a great healer; gradually I am beginning to heal. I am not [...]

June 29th, 2021|Categories: Blog, Improving Your Wellbeing|

Why Don’t You? Remember that?

"Why Don't You? Why Don't You Just Switch Off Your Television Set and Go and Do Something Less Boring Instead?" For those of you too young to remember this was a BBC children's television series that started back in the '70s. Quite apt when you think how much time we spend in front of our screens now! For me growing up in the 70's was a time of freedom, being individual, connecting within the community, being creative and using our imagination to stimulate the brain. This came easily as there was not the competition or pressure on children to perform and the expectation that they excel at absolutely everything. We were free to explore and find our own passions, so that we could be [...]

June 29th, 2021|Categories: Blog, Improving Your Wellbeing|

Wise words from 2 men I admire; one downsizing, one my Dad.

Wise words from 2 men I admire; one downsizing, one my Dad. I had the pleasure of being in the company of a truly inspirational 91-year-old gentleman, living in Northwood and looking to downsize his family home. He has the energy of someone in their 70’s and even looked it! It was a privilege to hear him talk about his experience of having to leave Germany, during the Second World War, at the age of 10, along with one of his sisters. His parents had escaped to Turkey and then eventually made their way to the USA. Unfortunately, however, they could only take one of their three children with them and had to make that painful decision. As a parent myself I could not [...]

June 29th, 2021|Categories: Blog, Moving|

Our founder’s personal story of why she started Every Home Matters

Our founder's personal story and what led her to start Every Home Matters. I met with Cheryl Carter virtually due to the pandemic restrictions. I found her story very inspiring and her creativity contagious:) This is what she told me in her own words. My life journey has been marked with trauma. Although some of it is personal, a fair amount of it seems more second-hand, taken on from close family and friends, especially those who have experienced periods of poor mental health. Living within the same household as someone with a mental illness caused such distress, fear, anxiety and depression and has dramatically changed our lives forever. As to did the fact that being deprived from seeing my parents, who I love dearly, [...]

June 29th, 2021|Categories: Blog, Improving Your Wellbeing|

Fear, Denial, Anger and Acceptance in a mammogram centre

Fear, denial, anger and acceptance in a mammagram centre Having had my mammogram and ultrasound I returned to the waiting area and as I took my seat I began anxiously to wonder whether the results would be positive or negative. The wait felt like an eternity, and my thoughts drifted before realising how many other individuals were sitting around me; my thoughts turned to them. Being a people person I love to talk to everyone and so I soon discovered that some of these people had previously been diagnosed with cancer and were there for further consultation and treatment, whilst others were in remission and there for follow-up appointments. Others sat there anxiously like me, waiting and contemplating what fate has in store for [...]

June 29th, 2021|Categories: Blog, Improving Your Wellbeing|

9 ways to cope when love is one sided.

9 ways to cope when love is one-sided. Love can be so strong and positive when it’s a two-way thing. It can build bridges and be so uplifting, but what do we you do when the one you love is no longer there or they no longer love you? When love is one-sided? We naturally think that our loved ones will always love us unconditionally and never imagine what life would be like without them. So how do we cope when suddenly, either due to bereavement, divorce, separation or illness, those ties are suddenly severed? Having experienced first-hand the impact of dementia and mental health within my own family, I have seen how quickly personalities and behaviour can change, how empathy and love can [...]

June 29th, 2021|Categories: Blog, Improving Your Wellbeing|

Case Study 5: “Mrs H” Downsizing property after the death of her husband

About the Client “Mrs H” is an elderly lady, who is looking to downsize her property after the death of her husband. She contacted Every Home Matters for emotional support as she had to give up some of the family possessions as well as the logistics required in moving. Their Challenge Mrs H and her husband had lived in the family home for several decades but her husband’s passing had motivated her to move on. Their children, who were now grown up with children of their own, had busy lifestyles and demanding careers so sorting through Mr H’s possessions was not only painful but very inconvenient for them. Mrs H had not moved house for many years, so there were a lot of possessions [...]

June 28th, 2021|Categories: Case Studies, Moving|Tags: , , |

Widowed and no family available to assist with downsizing

Widowed and no family available to assist with downsizing Mrs S and her husband had lived in their family home for sixty years. They had raised their family there, celebrated many milestone occasions, and shared many happy moments. Mr S had worked in a bank and so they entertained many friends and colleagues. Then a year ago Mr S passed away and left a big void for Mrs S as they meant everything to each other. They doted on their children, who were now grown up with children of their own and had busy lifestyles and demanding careers; so dealing with his possessions was not only painful but very difficult. Mrs S's financial consultant who is a SOLLA member had recommended our services as [...]

June 28th, 2021|Categories: Blog, Case Studies, Moving|Tags: , , , |

What to do with immense feelings of loss

What to do with immense feelings of loss In a world surrounded by people and social media, you can still feel alone. To grow up in a family whether unconditionally loved or not, having others around you to interact with, stimulate the mind and encourage change for good or bad reasons, is an interaction that makes us move forward. However, to unexpectedly find yourself in a situation where it is all stripped away from you can be heartbreaking and the feeling of grief and loss can be overwhelming. It is in this time of strife and an immense feeling of loss that we should try and look at it from a different perspective … for everything we experience in life is a lesson. What [...]

June 28th, 2021|Categories: Blog, Improving Your Wellbeing|

Taking care of Mum and Dad for you when your job won’t let you.

Taking care of Mum and Dad for you, when your job won't let you. We were called in via an elderly clients’ solicitor to assist in collating some vital paperwork. Our clients are an elderly couple, Mr R being 90 years old and his wife 85 years old. Mr R has dementia and has suffered PTSD since the war, and Mrs R was having falls and losing her memory, and was Mr R's sole carer. Their only child lived miles away and had a high-flying job that demanded most of their time thus making it difficult to look after or facilitate care needs for their parent. Our initial free consultation flagged up many concerns and although it is all so easy to rush into [...]

June 28th, 2021|Categories: Blog, Case Studies, Organising|Tags: , , |

Case Study 3: “Mr P” Social Services appointed us to manage the logistics of his move. 

Case Study 3 'Mr P': Social Services appointed us to manage the logistics of his move. About the Client “Mr P” is an elderly gentleman living with his dog in a three-bedroom property that he owns outright. He is infirm, struggles to walk upstairs using two walking sticks, and also suffers from self-neglect. He has a son who has previously physically abused him and exploited him, and there is currently a restraining order in place. Their Challenge Mr. P had been served a court order to vacate his premises but he was unwilling to do this or even engage in conversation with social services to discuss his options. Social Services contacted Every Home Matters to help engage in the discussion, and help him with [...]

June 9th, 2021|Categories: Case Studies, Organising|Tags: , , , |

Case Study 2: “Mr B” From Cleaning to Counselling to support independent living

From Cleaning to Counselling to support independent living About the Client “Mr B” is a retired gentleman living alone in a large 3 bedroom house. He is a former builder, however, he has been unable to look after himself or his property since the death of his wife, 3 years previously. Their Challenge Mr B had previously been hospitalized following several falls, and was suffering from a mental health condition. Every Home Matters had been contacted by social services, and a free consultation was arranged, in the presence of a social worker. The social worker had no knowledge of the clients’ situation, outside of him being retired, and having been in hospital, and with a possible mental health condition. The social worker suggested that [...]

Case Study 1: “Miss C” Finding a new, more habitable home for this elderly lady

Finding a new more habitable home. About the Client: Miss C. “Miss C” is an 84-year-old lady, living alone. She has no family living nearby and rents her property from a Landlord. She suffers from anxiety and has been on long-term medication for this, and due to her age and health had become very isolated from the community. Their Challenge Every Home Matters was contacted by Miss C whose landlord had claimed the break clause. A break clause is a provision in a lease that enables either the landlord or the tenant, or both, to end the lease early. Miss C would have to move into an interim residence for a maximum of five months, during which time she would have to find a [...]

June 9th, 2021|Categories: Case Studies|Tags: , , , , |

 Coping with illness and disability while moving home

 Coping with illness and disability while moving home "Our wonderful experience with Cheryl Carter and Every Home Matters"   By Mr D (Merton) "During the late summer of 2015, we were notified by our landlord that he would be selling his property that my wife and I had rented from him for 11 years. Since I was undergoing radiation therapy for cancer, and my wife had just had her knee replaced, we were in no condition to move or vacate. We applied for council and charitable housing immediately, but none was available. The landlord extended his plans to help accommodate us, but the house was sold in early December, and the new owner wanted to renovate completely. We had no option to continue the rental of [...]

March 1st, 2017|Categories: Blog, Case Studies, Moving, Organising|Tags: , , |

Why decluttering needs diplomacy

Why decluttering needs diplomacy Being a bit of a squirrel means I can get very sentimental about my stuff. I was always fascinated and amused at the way the Mona Lisa – considered to be one of world’s greatest artistic icons, was ‘abused’ by mischievous designers. Over three decades, I amassed thousands of items of abused Mona Lisa printed, painted and handmade ephemera. Moving four years ago meant that three large packing cases were needed to house the collection for removal. And there they have stayed ever since, still unopened…* De-cluttering takes finesse Cheryl Carter runs Every Home Matters, a company that de-clutters older people’s homes in south west London. Here, she tells me a bit about her work. "De-cluttering an older person’s home is [...]

April 14th, 2016|Categories: Blog, Organising|

When Getting Divorced Keep A Record Of All Your Possessions

When Getting Divorced Keep A Record Of All Your Possessions. Divorce is often described as a bereavement. Accepting change can be difficult, coming to terms of the loss of a relationship, the home and sentimental possessions can soon fuel our emotions, resulting in aggression, bullying and controlling behaviour. For the person on the receiving end of this hostility, it can be very intimidating and difficult to negotiate the smallest issues, let alone the division of the home and its contents. By preparing an independent inventory of all the possession at the beginning of the divorce and copying in both solicitors, the assets can be fairly distributed.  Clinging on to possessions of no value out of spite and removing items from the matrimonial home without [...]

April 12th, 2016|Categories: Blog|

Stress: Fight or Flight?

Stress: Fight or Flight? We never know what life has in store for us; at one moment, you could be a high flyer without a care in the world and at the next, you could be faced with a life-changing trauma, your world could be turned upside down, with the possibility of losing everything your life has been built upon. And although we all have an inbuilt sense that that we should be able to cope, it is not until we are faced with certain challenging life situations that we truly know the reality of fight or flight and how we will truly react. Is it possible to prepare yourself for such situations? For me, regular running and jogging brings me a clearer mind, [...]

April 12th, 2016|Categories: Blog, Improving Your Wellbeing|Tags: , , |

7 actions you can take to stay positive when it feels like your life is falling apart

7 actions you can take to stay positive when it feels like your life is falling apart I had the pleasure of talking to Catherine Pratt today who has these proven tips to help you in difficult times. Catherine was recently asked the following question about how to stay positive in a rough situation and I thought I’d post the answer here as I’m sure there are others going through the exact same thing. The question was, "I am doing everything I can to remain positive but it seems like my personal life is becoming harder and harder every day. I know it's important to focus on the positive and not the negative so what should I do to keep thinking positive thoughts?” Here [...]

April 12th, 2016|Categories: Blog, Improving Your Wellbeing|

A Guide to Cultivating Compassion in Your Life, With 7 Practices

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” – Dalai Lama BY LEO BABAUTA I believe compassion to be one of the few things we can practice that will bring immediate and long-term happiness to our lives. I’m not talking about the short-term gratification of pleasures like sex, drugs or gambling (though I’m not knocking them), but something that will bring true and lasting happiness. The kind that sticks. The key to developing compassion in your life is to make it a daily practice. Meditate upon it in the morning (you can do it while checking email), think about it when you interact with others, and reflect on it at night. In this way, it [...]

April 12th, 2016|Categories: Blog, Improving Your Wellbeing|Tags: , , |
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