Professional Advice and Support During Divorce Blog by Every Home Matters

Professional Advice and Support During Divorce

Divorce is often described as bereavement.  Accepting change can be difficult, coming to terms of the loss of a relationship, the home and sentimental possessions can soon fuel our emotions, resulting in aggression, bullying, and controlling behaviour. For the person on the receiving end of this hostility, it can be very intimidating and difficult to negotiate the smallest issues, let alone the division of the home and its contents.

By preparing an independent inventory of all the possession at the beginning of the divorce and copying in both solicitors, the assets can be distributed.  Clinging on to possessions of no value out of spite and removing items from the matrimonial home without consent only adds more fuel to the fire.  If a compromise cannot be reached, then those items should be gifted or sold so that neither party loses out.

Seeking professional advice is paramount at this time, especially when the relationship has controlled by one party. In these situations, financial and mental abuse, which is just as damaging as physical abuse as no one can see the scars, may be experienced. Constant abuse will break the strongest of us and hearing how worthless you are can cause loss of confidence and damage our self-esteem. Having a group of highly reputable professionals to consult, in all aspects of a divorce, whether it be financial advice, therapy or security is strongly advised and will empower you.

Over the years, I have had the pleasure of meeting such individuals at a networking event run by Sarah Wadham, who set up Aphrodite Angels after her own divorce. Sarah’s message is that although traumatic, difficult, and emotionally draining. Divorce and other life changes can lead to a new and empowering start and be a positive experience for everybody involved. “You will get through it”.

The following links will provide professional financial advice and support during divorce:

Nedbank  (Sarah Wadham, Vivienne Goldstein and Ian Smith)

Aphrodite Angels